How To Respond To Someone That Doesn’t Support a Boudoir Session

August 28, 2021 / Lifestyle

I recently was talking with a client of mine about a friend’s husband that doesn’t support a boudoir session. She told me about a discussion that she found herself in recently, and I wanted to share about it with you guys. Why? Because, I feel like many women have found themselves having the same conversations with their own friends!

Here’s what happened.

Recently, a client of mine was with a few of her friends, sitting around a fire talking all things life and someone brought up boudoir. One of the husbands in the group said, “boudoir photos are stupid, why would I pay for what I see all the time?

Have you ever heard anyone ask this kind of question when it comes to boudoir?

I have – I see things like this ALL the time!

To these people, I have a simple answer.

How To Respond To Someone That Doesn’t Support a Boudoir Session

Boudoir sessions are not about sex, they aren’t about gratification for the woman in front of the camera or for whomever the photos are a gift for. Sure, boudoir photos are sexy and that in itself can be gratifying, but that is absolutely not why anyone should have a boudoir session.

The truth is: boudoir shoots are all about self-love and confidence.

Fellas, you see your wife, fiance, girlfriend – whatever she is to you – entirely different than how she sees herself. You see how gorgeous she is all the time – in the little moments she doesn’t know you’re looking to the sexy moments and everything in between.

She, however, does not.

When we look at ourselves in the mirror, the first thing we zero in on is everything we are self-conscious about. We see the flaws, where all you see is beauty and imperfect perfection.

Allowing your partner to see herself the way you already do will make such a positive impact.

Basically, boudoir shoots are not about you. It’s very much about her confidence.

Be supportive, encourage her to see herself the way you already do.


Women are treating themselves with this experience after a milestone achievement, weight loss or recovering from an illness or even divorce. It is also common now for brides to surprise their future husbands with a boudoir album on their wedding day. Birthdays, Anniversaries, Christmas, Valentines Day: these are all fun reasons to do this, but let’s be honest, sometimes you don’t need a holiday to remind yourself of the badass you really are.

Finally, well, BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT! Even if you think you don’t have that hotness, you do, you just need to let her out!!


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